50 Shades of Grey – Gray Area?

Christians like to talk about gray areas, black areas, and white areas.  We like to say “that’s a black and white issue” or “that’s a gray area.”

When it comes to the best-selling book 50 Shades of Grey,  there is no shortage of discussion on the black, white, and gray of it.  Many authors, bloggers, and interviewers are chiming in – for good reason.

This book is a New York Times Bestseller.  50 Shades and the subsequent two books in the trilogy are all in the top 10 books in the Kindle rankings.

The book is a cultural phenomenon.

But, this is not a gray area – it’s very black and white.

I read book one.  Ok, “read” might be an overstatement.  I read the first five chapters then began swiping my iPhone screen in search of a plot (or anything redeeming).  I did at least scan every single page.  As a former English teacher, I could write about its lack of literary merit all day long, but the poor writing and lack of plot aren’t harmful to my soul.

The language and imagery are harmful.

This book is referred to as “mommy porn” for a reason.  The book’s description of sex and relationship is not at all what God intended.  What God created to be beautiful, this book makes very ugly.

I regret reading it.  But, regret can’t wipe away those words from my eyes or those images from my brain.


Before you purchase this book, I pray you investigate and make an informed decision.  These four blog posts are a great place to start.

Why I Am Not Reading 50 Shades of Grey

50 Shades of Let’s Get Serious

Fifty Shades:  Not Your Mother’s Romance Novel

A Black and White Choice NOT to Read 50 Shades of Grey

Unfortunately, I wasn’t so wise.  A friend said…I am reading 50 Shades of Grey.  Many of my friends posted “reading 50 Shades” on Facebook.  So, I went to my Kindle app and bought it.


For me, it boils down to Proverbs 4: 20-27

My son,pay attention to what I say; turn your ear to my words.21 Do not let them out of your sight,keep them within your heart; 22 for they are life to those who find them and health to one’s whole body.23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.24 Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. 25 Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you.26 Give careful thought to thepaths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways.27 Do not turn to the right or the left;keep your foot from evil.

I want to guard my heart, giving careful thought to my path, keeping my foot from evil (or any hint of evil.)  I am so easily swayed in some areas that I must look straight ahead with my gazed fixed directly on Him and the cross if I am to avoid drifting into sin.

So, I hope you’ll guard your heart from this book – and others like it. It’s best to dwell on “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy…”  Philippians 4:8.

Today’s Q:  Have you read 50 Shades of Grey?  Thoughts? 


  1. Thank you for linkback to DGM’s blog.
    And to answer your question… no.


    • Crystal, As I began to read what others were saying about 50 Shades, I was glad to find your blog. I plan to keep following – love it! Thanks, Sarah

  2. I feel as though I experience this a lot when I start on a new book. I fall into the hype to only then realize that I am not at all comfortable with what I am reading and fling it into the pile of books that will go unread.

    • Emily, I do the exact same thing. Although I rarely read fiction, I almost always read if a book is getting much attention or press. (I’ve read Twilight and Harry Potter, for example.) My lesson learned here was I should research more, which is easy to do with Google:)
      Thanks! Sarah

  3. I’ve read the entire trilogy. Honestly, I don’t believe it’s about the weird sex. So many women are just seeking a partner who is loving, attentive and caring;many are not receiving these vital components in their own relationships. These books portray a warped and disturbing scenario of the aforementioned, but his intensity is attractive. I skipped through a lot of the funky whips and cuffs scenarios, and thought I was going to throw the book across the room every time I read ‘inner goddess’ ‘hmmm’ or ‘oh my’, but the story line kept my interest, and the next two books went into greater detail explaining the sad reason Christian Grey was so ….. out there.

    Can I also add that I had the disturbing feeling that some really messed up 4th grader edited these books?

    Crysta Bourdon,
    Research Analyst for the smut department.


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