50 Shades of Follow-Up

After my original post about 50 Shades of Grey, I got lots of feedback.  Some love the book, some hate the book. It was truly a mixed bag.  I’d like to thank each of you for your input and honesty; I  learned much yesterday.

Because of all I learned and all of the feedback, I wanted to clarify one thing:  I am not against the book (or any book) – I am for God and you.  This morning I heard this on a podcast from Cross Point Church:  Do I want to make a point or a difference?

In my original post I had no desire to make some “holier than thou” point.  My heart was and is to make a difference.  To tell those who have not read this book:  Please do your homework before picking it up.  To tell those who have read the book and feel guilty (like me):  There’s grace and forgiveness.

I write because I love God and people.  My prayer is always that my words point you directly to Him.

Throughout the day yesterday, I texted with my friend, Amber.  She leads the Women’s Ministry at my church and is the wife of one of our pastors, Mike.  She is the one I can trust to truthfully monitor my words and actions.  She taught me much yesterday, so I asked her to share with you.

From Amber:

I too was curious about the hype of 50 Shades of Grey, so after seeing many Facebook friends making note of reading it, I decided to look up a synopsis. I must admit to being shocked by its content of being an “erotic novel” and that the plot was of a virgin agreeing “to experiment with bondage, domination, and sadism.” What? This is what the book is about? I half mentioned this to my husband, about its content and how shocked I was that so many Christian women were admitting to reading it.

So, after returning home from a Women’s Christian Conference, The Gospel Coalition 2012, I saw that a friend blogged about it, warning of it’s content and asking us to guard our hearts. I couldn’t agree more. Really, I thought I was ending it there…I agree with my friend, I find the content to be disturbing and I was ready to move on. It was never my intention to write a post about it.

Then, I remember reading Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, a book I just picked up at The Gospel Coalition Conference and how it warned of this exact thing.

“So why do we fall for his deception? (in speaking of Satan) Why do we go for the lure? One reason is that Satan doesn’t usually appear in the form of a serpent-instead, he comes disguised as a New York Times best seller, a popular magazine, or a movie, or a TV show, or a Top Ten hit song.”

She goes on to say that “Sadly, most people-even Christians-have unthinkingly exposed themselves to so much deception that they do not even realize they are being deceived. That is the very nature of deception-it blinds us to the fact that we have been deceived.”

The beginning pages outline “The Progression From Deception to Bondage” (Bondage to the enemy/to our sin) We “Listen to a lie, Dwell on the lie, Believe the lie, then Act on the lie.” Scary thought, but so true! Unfortunately, some of my past proves this to be true.

Even as reading, I was convicted of doing exactly what she explained, in hearing and belting out one of the top 40 songs “We Are Young.”  Such a catchy tune! I didn’t even realize what I was singing until I was curious as to the meaning behind “So let’s set the world on fire, we can burn brighter than the sun” After looking up the remaining lyrics and finding that it’s about drugs and alcohol, and getting so drunk they can’t stand up, I prayed to get that song out of my head! What is redeeming about that? So, I asked the Lord to replace it with another song, and I continue to do so. It still creeps in sometimes. Frustrating!

During the conference we were reminded of our bodies being temples…a convicting phrase to us all.

“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 ESV.  I must be careful of what I watch, what I listen to, and what I read. I need to guard my mind and heart to not dwell on things that are not of Him, so that I’m careful to not believe the lie, which may then cause me to act on that very lie. We know that destruction and heartache are only to follow.

I pray you hear my words not as judging, but of warning, out of love for Him and out of love for you. May he replace our lies with truth…truth that sets of free (John 8:32).

With deepest love for you, Amber Berry

Today’s Q:  What is God teaching you through this (whether you’ve read the book or not)?  

Looking forward to reading your comments and emails as we learn more about Him together.  


  1. Ashley Evans says:

    Thanks Sarah. I was going to get the book on my hubby kindle, but know I won’t. Thank you so much.

  2. Chrissy Durham says:

    I have not read the book, but God is teaching me through the talk of this book that as children of a most perfect God, we are held to a higher standard. This does not make us better or holier than others. It proves the point that we are living as His examples on earth. Would Christ pick up this book, watch this show, listen to that song? We are flawed and far from perfect but we are to show God to those we meet and know and keep our testimony clear. How confusing would your testimony be if you are praising God in word or song and in the next breath asking “Have you seen ??? Movie?” or “You have to read ??? book!” that undermine what He tells us?!

    • Chrissy…thanks for the encouragement. Yes, we are help to a highter standard. What a privilege for us! We are free to say no to such soul sucking stories. Love the freedom that comes in Him:)

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