Be You: That’s Who This World Needs

I am woman; hear me roar!  This has been my mantra most of my life.

Anything boys can do, girls can do better.  Another mantra of mine.

When I was young and you messed with me (girl or boy), I’d kick your rear or die trying.  (Not proud of that; it’s just a fact.)

My drive to become valedictorian? To beat the two BOYS who were in the lead (we all three tied.)

I have always had a chip on my shoulder that read, “I don’t care if you’re a boy, I can beat you if I try.”

However, God’s been changing my heart about my place in this world as a woman.  As a wife.  As a mom.

While I have always served my husband and children (often to a fault), I have always felt less than stellar in these roles. As a result, I have always had a chip on my shoulder about my lack of homemaking skills.

For five years, God’s chipped away at that chip on my shoulder.  He’s given me a piece/peace here and piece/peace there to complete the “who I am” puzzle.

The final piece/peace came in the oddest place:  The Billy Graham Library.

I know, right?  Weird.

If you’ve not been to the BGL, it’s not a library; it’s a museum that honors Jesus just as much as it honors Billy Graham.

After my husband and I took a tour, I was more in awe of God’s work than Billy Graham’s work, which is how I bet Reverend Graham would want it.

All the “exhibits” were amazing, enlightening, and impactful, but one brought tears to my eyes and quickened my heart: The room dedicated to Ruth Bell Graham.

I can’t possibly recount her life’s story here.  But, if you’d like to learn more about her, follow these links:

Ruth Bell Graham (from The Tiny Twig) and/or Ruth Bell Graham (Biography)

What I felt in that room was…”it’s ok to be who I’ve called you to be – a wife and mom.”  It’s also ok to be “other” things outside of wife and mom; roles I have called you to.

I want so desperately to be a good wife and mom, but often feel ill-equipped and ill -suited for the job.  I don’t like to cook.  I only like to clean because I love organization and despise chaos.  My home is well-decorated and lovely, but only because I enjoy the creativity and color of decorating.

I am not very good at any of those “wifely” or “motherly” things.

I am no homemaker.  And, the more I try to be, the more frustrated I become.

I beg God…just make me a homemaker.  Help me to LOVE it and do it well.

After 12 years of praying that?  Nothing.

Yet,  as I stood in Ruth’s room, I heard something…

“It’s ok to be who I’ve called you to be – a wife, a mom, a writer, a servant.”  And, as I gazed at Ruth’s Bible and her letters to Billy, I knew.  I finally knew what God was saying…

Be content as the woman I’ve called YOU to be.  Not the wife I’ve called your friend to be.  Or the mom I’ve called so and so to be.  Or the career woman I’ve called that other woman to be.

God whispered, “This is the story I’ve penned for you and for no one else. “

While I hate parts of that “story,” I know he’s chosen me to live this story and live it well.

I/ you /we don’t need to live up to anyone else’s standard, except God’s.  You don’t like to cook?  That makes you no less of a good wife or mom than Paula Deen.

You want to homeschool?  Or, you don’t want to homeschool?  That makes you no more or less a mom.

You have dreams of becoming a writer, teacher, astronaut, or world leader?  Awesome!

As I looked around Ruth’s room, I felt the impact of a woman who had raised her children and served her husband well.  She’d written books and served others in her church and her community and her world.

Women…Your calling from God is to Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12: 30-31

Wives and Moms…Part of your calling from God is to love them and raise them up in the way of the Lord.

Love God.  Love others.  That’s our calling.

Who are you?  His daughter for whom He made the ultimate sacrifice so you could be free to live the life he penned for you.

Your calling is not to compete with, compare yourself to, or keep up with the callings of other women.

Be you; that’s who God made you to be.  And, that’s who this world needs.

Links:

The Billy Graham Library

Ruth Bell Graham (from The Tiny Twig)

Ruth Bell Graham (Biography)

1 Corinthians 13:  4-7

Mark 12

Comments

  1. This is great, Sarah!! Beautifully spoken words of truth.

    • Thanks, Kim! I think I am finally over the “it must be perfect to post” and ready to post more of what I write:) Thanks for the encouragement!

  2. So needed to hear this today. thank you x

    • You’re welcome, Jen:) Sometimes I look at my life and think, “Why in the world did you choose THIS for me, God?” The THIS may be something terrible or terrific. Recently, I’ve questioned a “terrible THIS” quite often, but time and time again God has said, “I am sovereign, Sarah…have faith and trust in me.” It’s not easy. Sometimes I want to send my kiddos back to school, get a housekeeper, and pursue my career again. Or, I want to erase portions of the past. Yet, if I quit comparing and competing – and trust Him – I always find myself at peace. That’s my prayer for all women…it’s so easy for us to live a discontented life. Prayers to you today!

      • Yup I hear you! I’ve recently felt like I’ve wanted to “escape” to work and leave my little toddler at nursery…but am finding I need to daily put my trust back in God & choose to allow Him to uphold us. x

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