A Letter to My Teen Self (in Honor of Graceful)

In honor of Emily Freeman’s new book Graceful, I wrote a letter to my teenage self.  You can view more letters here.

I encourage you to write a letter to your teen self too.  Whether you’re 20 or 50, it’s both uplifting and gut-wrenching to reflect on your life so far.  Very perspective giving.

Dear Teen Sarah,

Spend time with your Dad.  He won’t be here as long as you think he will.

Don’t settle for any boy that comes along.  Dating someone you’d never marry is simply practice for divorce.

The prince you’re waiting for?  He will come.  Just wait and see.

You’re going to be a mom someday.  I know, I know.  That’s hard to digest. But, you’ll love it.

Be healthy.

Quit trying to be valedictorian.  In a few years, no one will remember or care.

No one is impressed by your ability to participate in 20 clubs and lead five of them.  Give yourself a break and have fun.

Every time you lie to your parents?  They know the truth.

Be thankful and show that thankfulness by taking care of your ’89 Escort.

Don’t let others tell you what you can and can’t be.  You will regret changing your major and giving up your dreams to become a writer.

Others’ opinions are just that:  opinions.  Stop listening.  All those people you are trying so hard to please will (mostly) be out of your life in a few years.

There’s a world beyond Poca, West Virginia.  Go see it.

In turn, Poca will always be your home.  Never forget where you came from.  Roots are important.

Most importantly, make Jesus the center of your life. Lean into Him and trust Him.  He will never leave you or forsake you – no matter what.

With Love,

Grown-up, wiser Sarah (who is still learning to lean into Jesus and trust Him completely)


  1. Loved it! It sounds like my 16-year old self could have benefitted from a letter like this too!

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