Celebrating My Husband’s Birthday

Today is my husband’s birthday.

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As I sat down to write him a letter for his birthday, my first inclination was to thank him for all he does.

He cares for our home and lawn.  He helps with laundry.  He cleans up after I cook.  He takes me on dates.  He is an amazing father to our children.  He supports our family, so I can stay at home and teach our children.

I could go on…

But then I realized…deep down, I am not as thankful for WHAT he does as I am thankful for WHO he is. 

I got home late last night after a weekend away with my daughter. I walked into a clean house with freshly-washed flannel sheets on our bed.  Am I thankful for that?  Yes!

But, as I began to compose the letter and reflected on who my husband is, I was more thankful for his heart than his acts of service.  

The heart that chose to love and serve me yesterday.

The heart that hugged his daughter, telling her he is proud of her for her accomplishments over the weekend.

The heart that took his son bowling and to a ping pong tournament while Hannah and I were away.

The heart that kissed me as I met him at the church for a Super Bowl party.

The heart that said I missed you.

The heart that prayed with me and read God’s word this morning over a big, birthday breakfast.

The heart that texted me this morning asking for prayer as he referees an impending divorce situation today.

The heart that prays with me, our daughter, and our son.

All of these actions reflect Steve’s heart – who he is and who Christ is growing him to be.  He loves, honors, and forgives.  He is humble and affectionate.  He seeks Christ and leads our family in seeking Christ.

I am thankful for WHO Steve is in Christ.  For most of our marriage, Steve didn’t know Christ.   He thought he did, but the moment Steve’s heart was truly awakened to Christ, Steve changed.  He felt he “knew” Christ.  His heart began transforming.

Our marriage has not been easy.  While some times were painful, today I celebrate the man Christ has transformed Steve into.  The marriage Christ has transformed by pouring grace and mercy on both of us.

And, I am reminded so it is with Christ.  He cares about our hearts. 

He cares about WHO we are much more than WHAT we do.  Christ wants a deep and loving relationship with us – like I want a deep and loving relationship with my husband.

Who does Christ want us to be?  People who love him and love others.

36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments. Matthew 22: 36-40

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God, but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. 1 John 4: 7-12

Simply, God loves us. It’s indescribable how deep and wide his love is for us. He loved us before we were born and sent His Son for our redemption.

And, when you love someone, you want his/her heart to be yours.  You want the other to love you as you love them.

God wants your heart to be His.

Then, acts of service will overflow out of that love, showing the love you have for the other.  Just as service shows faith in Christ and pours from our hearts to others because we love Him so much.

Today I celebrate my husband. Who he is in Christ, who he’s becoming, and what he does to demonstrate his love to Christ and to me.

Happy Birthday, Steve.


  1. robin claire says:

    Hi Sarah,
    I also wrote something about my husband in a post. I thought you might like to read it.
    love to you friend,

  2. Happy birthday, Steve! Thanks you two for being such a wonderful example of real love!

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