Be a High Fiver {Don’t Worry About What Others Think}

I take my seat on the bleachers Friday night excited to have my family and a friend joining me to watch Hannah perform with the Southern Belles Dance Team. My niece’s first game!  {She sings, cheers, and claps the entire time – too much cuteness to handle.}

football field


han and chloe

Then, I notice the gals in front of me.  Twins.  Both with Down’s Syndrome. Chatting a mile a minute!  No none cheers like they cheer.  No one smiles as big or gets as excited.  They are a true delight to watch.

Suddenly, a big play for the home team and one gal turns around and gives me a HIGH FIVE!  Not even kidding – high fives all around!

They turn and talk to my niece.  We exchange names and ages (they’re 27 and will be 28 soon), and they love football!

Again, big play – high fives all around…I love it! In fact, I begin to offer up the high five first.  It’s so sweet and fun.  We’re all laughing.

My friend turns to me and says…what if we all gave high fives to strangers?  Just noticed something awesome and high fived.

And I wonder…what keeps me from giving the high five?

What will people think? What if they don’t want to?  What if they make fun of me or think I’m silly?  What if…?   But, think of it!  What if we uninhibitedly high five others when something awesome happens?  Or hug them when something not-so-good occurs?  It really would make us better, help us and others to feel more loved and included.

What if we forget about all those things that make us so self- aware and just start loving and encouraging one another with a proverbial or literal high five?

Fast forward to church on Sunday morning…guess what?  MORE HIGH FIVING!  Let me just say I (usually) do NOT like it when the pastor says…turn to your neighbor and say [insert whatever here.]  It feels so weird.  Outside my comfort zone.  Ugh!

But…you know what’s coming, right?

The pastor says turn to your neighbor, give them a high five, and say “God is good!”

No. Way.  My friend leans over and whispers the obvious:  Yep, we are high fiving again.

I can almost physically feel the push. God behind shoving me outside my comfort zone – outside my “what will people think zone” into the world of high fiving.

I want to be a high fiver.

BE a high fiver

I want to turn to the next row at the football game, in the church building, in my classroom, in the grocery store, in my home –  and give a big high five to awesome or a big hug to heartbreak.

I want to view his kingdom as a high fiver, noticing who is around me and not letting petty worries hold me back.  I want to be like the twins, Stacey and Sherry.  Cheering others on, celebrating the win, dancing to the song, high fiving those around, and smiling for all to see.  Pure joy!  

I want to be like the children…

13 One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.

14 When Jesus saw what was happening, he was angry with his disciples. He said to them, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children. 15 I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it.”16 Then he took the children in his arms and placed his hands on their heads and blessed them. Mark 10: 13-16

The Bible talks many times of childlike faith – one that trusts, loves, is teachable, admires, hopes…and high fives.  OK, the Bible never mentions high fiving. But, when I think of being a high fiver, I think of a child  – one not tainted and scarred by this world – one who sees good all around.  I think of loving my neighbor as myself:  we all want to be high fived, feeling we belong.

Let’s high five today, friends.  It might look like a hand-to-hand slap, an arms-to-neck hug, or a-lips-to-ear word of encouragement. Whatever form it takes, know He sees. And I think He smiles.

High five!

{Please share a high five moment in the comments here or on Facebook. I’d love to virtually high five you!}


  1. Marla Taviano says:

    I’m a huge fan of the high five. You can give me one today for deciding to work on not feeling like I need to achieve to have worth. High five! (p.s. I know a book-to-be that this post would be great in.)

    • Oh, the book…:) It is always on the to do list;)

      And HUGE high five today for not feeling as if you need to achieve worth!!! From one achiever to another, I am so so proud of you! Love you:)

  2. I think I’m a high fiver! I know I’ve embarrassed many middle school twirlers in my day, hee hee. Need to work on the strangers. My reserved nature (came along in college) holds me back. I love reading your posts. You should definitely write a book. What’s holding you back? 🙂

    • I bet you’re a high fiver, Misty! I can totally see it:) And I have a book proposal in process with a publishing house out of Montana…but as to why I do not finish it or pursue a book? What’s holding me back? I’d say time…and perhaps fear. Not fear of failure exactly, but fear of “what in the world will I write for 225 pages”? 🙂

  3. I just now saw this. I really appreciate the encouragement. Thank you! I mean high-five!

  4. Sheri and Staci are always ready to cheer anyone on, and High five them no matter the outcome. Yes, let’s high five and encourage everyone!

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