For the Single Mom {on Mom’s Day}

I see you. I see you cooking and cleaning.  Carpooling and crafting.  You’re wiping tears and cleaning knees. The need never seems to end.  A break isn’t coming.

And it’s not like you need a break – exactly. You love your kiddos. You’d spend every waking minute with them if you could. They’re great kids.

But, sometimes, it’s nice to have help. It’s nice for someone to acknowledge that you’re doing this alone. Sure, friends help. Maybe they even go with Dad once a week or every other weekend. And maybe there is no dad at all { I really am sorry.}

to the single mom

Still, the burden of providing and parenting rests squarely on your shoulders.  They come to you with all the questions...can I date? Does this dress look nice? Is my hair ugly? Am I overweight? Can I run track?

They come to you with the tears. I wasn’t chosen this time, Mom. I didn’t make the cut. She was making fun of me today. Why are there starving kids in the world? Where is God in this?  

They come to you for homework help. For car rides. For decision making. For affirmation. For confirmation. For love. For understanding. For all of it.

Sometimes you want to say…I don’t know, little one. I don’t know what’s best. Decisions are best made in tandem when two different people can bring strengths and weaknesses to create one solid team.

Could you text dad every time? Maybe. But it’s not really feasible. You can’t ask your friend or mom every time either. You’re the one. You’re the one who answers the questions, wipes the tears, encourages the hearts, helps with the homework.

And that’s ok – you “took them to raise.” But, sometimes, you’d just like for someone to say…I see you. I see you getting up early, working hard, sacrificing much. I see how exhausting this life can be. I know you love them deeply, but this work is hard.  I believe you want the very best for them.  I understand that this was not the plan. 

Today, friend, I want to tell you: I see you.  I feel you in my heart.

This single mom road is challenging. But, it’s ever so rewarding.

And, best of all, it teaches you that you are not alone. In the earliest of mornings when the silent house creaks and bedroom fan whirls. He is there. During the late nights when you toss and turn and the weight of “I am responsible for them” hits. He is there.

He is with you. He is with them. He is a God of redemption and love. This may not have been his plan, but He is in control.  You are not a statistic or a failure. There is no label that fits you except daughter of the King.

I pray today that you walk in that, friend.

I had no plans to write today. Most of what I feel about Mom’s Day is in this post. But, God said…there’s a single mom out there, Sarah. And she needs encouragement. So, to the one for whom God nudged me…Happy Mother’s Day. You are seen and you are loved.

Your work matters.  Your children matter. YOU matter.

Your kids will never forget this season. They may not know or understand right now, but someday, they’ll know: My mom was a superstar! My mom is a daughter of the Most High God, and I am honored to call her Mine.

Comments

  1. Oh Sarah, you made me cry. Thank you for this beautiful post. I’m tired all the time. I love my kids and they deserve the best. But being a widowed mom of four is not what I planned. Thank you for this blog written with such sincere insight and gentle encouragement.

    • Jenn, thanks for your encouraging words. I pray you find rest – deep soul rest – as you parent alone. I can’t wait to read your words as you process and place all that you’ve endured on the page. It will help and bless so many!

  2. marchelle says:

    Awww I love this! !

    • I’m glad this resonated with you, Marchelle. I think it’s all so true. He sees us. Others see us. It’s hard, but so worth it!

  3. Rebecca says:

    Ahhh!! Thank you so much! This truly blessed me!

    • You’re welcome, Rebecca! I am so glad these words blessed you…you’re enough even if you dont feel like it. Much love!

  4. Veronica says:

    Thank you. Just thank you.

    • You’re welcome, Veronica. I pray today that you feel each word is true for you – and even when (or especially when) you don’t “feel” it – you KNOW it deep down.

  5. Without a doubt, the single mamas are rock-stars! May you rest in the grace of God’s strength and security today. He is with you. He will fill the gaps where we fall short. He will raise up your children to honor Him. Keep doing all the tasks, keep building the relationships and care for yourself sometimes, too…you’re worth the investment!

    • I love these words…resting in the grace of God’s strength and security. Yes! I so appreciate your encouragement.

  6. Really, really good! I saved this to read and am just now reading it…so the life of the single
    mom…read for pleasure when you can. Thank you for sharing!

    • You’re welcome, Angie! I pray it blessed you in some way as you finally had time to sit and read.:)

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