Day 2: To the girl in the blue dress…

To the girl in the blue dress…
I passed by rather quickly, but not before I noticed you standing outside the funeral home in my small hometown. You gripped your purse and paper as if that were all you had.  Your puffy, red-rimmed eyes evidenced your love for the one to whom you were saying goodbye. People stood all around you, but you looked alone.
I didn’t stop – that may have been weird – but I’ve thought of you often. I know what it’s like to stand on that very sidewalk with one of my favorite people absent from the body inside. No words. No hugs. No reassurance. None of it can make this moment “better.”
But, I would say to you…you are still here. Whatever you miss most about the person laying inside, live that out. Love that in others. Spread that. Don’t let the one you love just go away. Keep her alive in you. Love as she loved. Give as she gave. Remember the best of her and keep doing that. And I’ll pray you feel peace and purpose in the days to come.
“That’s my parting gift to you. Peace. I don’t leave you the way you’re used to being left—feeling abandoned, bereft. So don’t be upset. Don’t be distraught. “You’ve heard me tell you, ‘I’m going away, and I’m coming back.’ John 14: 27-28
Day 2 of 31


  1. Once again you remind us how to deal with the loss of a friend or family member. We need to be reminded that they live on through us. They made a difference in our lives. We are better having known them.

    • As my dad’s birthday approaches ( tomorrow ), I try to remember that – and not be mad he was taken way too early!

  2. So sweet. I enjoyed reading your tender words here. A beautiful way for us to observe and consider those who grieve the loss of loved ones.

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